A New You

A New You

You have read and learn a lot from this blog about different types of relationshop and the techniques and skills in handling all kinds of people. Your mind is probably reeling with all the ideas you just learn from this manual. Slow down your mind now. You do not have to absorb the fine points of each chapter before you can begin to make people like you and do what you say. You have, right now, enough knowledge to make wonderful changes and take dramatic strides toward a position of eminence in your job, at home, and in your social life.

The moment you read the final word in this volume, you will be ready to start turning things around in your life. The first person you encounter will offer you an experience such as you have never had before. Why? Because for the first time, you will feel real strength when you meet a new acquaintance or a total stranger. You now have the ability to see into that person. This will make your relationship with the individual far more satisfactory and controllable than people associations have ever been for you in the past. No matter what sort of events occur in that new relationship, you will understand precisely what you have to do to seize the initiative and maintain control. The situation will not get away from you unless you want it to!

Hence, the next week in your life promises to be vastly and astonishingly different. And, as you learn to use the techniques skilfully, you will gain experience in using them and get increasingly more adept and proficient in handling all sorts of people. But remember, whatever you do, remain a student of people. Refer to the lessons in this blog periodically. You will hone your people skills to a degree that will absolutely amaze you.

Good luck!

Win Friends For Life

Keep your friends for life and build upon your friendships

In chemistry, it is a known fact that certain elements have a natural affinity for each other. For example, when two atoms of hydrogen meet one atom of oxygen, they will automatically bond to form one molecule of water. This same kind of attraction can exist between you and your friends as long as you remain alert and spot any misunderstandings or problems before they have a chance to disturb your relationships.

These problems can come up suddenly. For example, in a moment of impatience, a close friend of yours who could be tired or frustrated with his work may snap at you in the midst of a conversation. The natural tendency for a person to react in such a situation is to snap back and you will probably end up arguing or even worse quarrelling with your friend. So to prevent that from occurring, you must be learn to be patient and be alert to the danger signs of temper and lack of concern for your friend. Once you are able to spot these signs, you can quickly correct your attitude and steer the conversation back into a friendly one.

A famous person once said that if he had to choose, in a life or death situation, between saving the life of a close friend first or that of a relative, he would try to save the life of his close friend. The reason he gave for treasuring his friend more than his relative was that he chose who he wanted to be his friends. As for his relatives, he had no choice. He was born into the relationship! So treasure your friendships and learn to keep the bonds strong by using the following techniques:

Go out of your way to develop interests that are similar to those of your friends. Do not act in any way that would clash with their personalities. Create an atmosphere of trust and thereby encourage your friends to drop their masks when they are with you. Show respect for their ideas and sensitivity for their feelings. Make time to listen to their bad luck stories and react with compassion. Congratulate them and rejoice when they have happy news. Lastly do thoughtful things for your friends, such as remembering birthdays with a birthday card, producing a small gift when they least expect it, and writing notes of congratulations for honours and achievements.

Turn Enemies Into Best Friends

Turn hostilities into friendliness

When a person is angry with you, it is usually because of one of several reasons. He could be angry because of something you have said or done, or he could be angry because of something he thinks you have said or done. Sometimes, he may be upset with another person or other matters but vent out his frustrations on you anyway, just because you happen to be the nearest or most convenient target. No matter what, you will need to do something about it, even if you are not to blame. You will need to turn off his anger quickly so that you can restore normal friendly relations with him again.

One effective method to do that is to simply listen to his story from the beginning to end without any interruption at all. After he has completed his scolding or whatever, tell him in a calm manner that you agree with him or that you understand his point of view. Then you ask him what he wants you to do about it. Usually, all he wants is to vent his frustration – get it all off his chest. By providing a sympathetic ear and showing that you are willing to listen, you would have calm him down somewhat. Usually, the person would just say that he only wanted you to know how he feels, or he just wanted an apology from you. If the situation warrants it, by all means apologise to him. You would have turned hostilities into friendliness without much difficulty.

Another effective technique to turn off a person’s anger is to respond in a kind and friendly manner to his outburst. Remain completely calm. Say nothing until he has drained himself emotionally. Then reply in a quiet and soft voice. You must deliberately lower your voice and keep it soft. Doing so will not only calm the angry person down, it will also keep you from getting angry as well. When you refrain from fighting back and hold your temper in check, you would have gained the edge needed to master and control the angry person. He will soon realise that by shouting at you or scolding you, he is the one who is being unreasonable. This embarrasses him and makes him feel bad as a normal person cannot possibly remain angry and high-strung for very long. After a short while, he will regain his composure, become self-conscious and would be anxious to get the situation back to normal as soon as possible.

The last and most effective method in overcoming hostilities, but more often than not the least used, is the ability to say that you are sorry. It is the least used because it is difficult to say for anyone to say that he is sorry. The factors of pride and ego is in play here. However, if you are genuinely in the wrong, you should quickly admit it and say that you are sorry. There is no faster or better way to turn off a person’s anger than to apologize to the person whose feelings you have hurt. However you can go beyond this. To be able to gain a lasting friendship with an angry person, all you need to do is to apologize even when you are not at fault. When you are not in the wrong, you can afford to be big-hearted and magnanimous, and the other person will also admire you for your courage. If just by saying sorry, you can restore peace in the family or workplace, or restore a friendly relationships, then say it. By doing so, you can get on with the more important matters of living and enjoying your life and your precious friendships rather than remaining disturbed and troubled, worrying over who is right or wrong.

How To Handle A Tough Boss and Make Your Boss Like You

Communicate with a difficult boss and favourably shape his opinion of you

If you are not self-employed, then like many people, the most important person in determining your future is your boss. On a day-to-day basis, he has direct control over your career, earning power and indirectly the quality of your life. He has direct authority in assigning you jobs that enhance your skills and self-esteem. On the other hand, he is also a major potential cause of headaches and worries, especially if he is a difficult boss. In other words, he can either make you tick or make you sick.

What can you do if you are unfortunate enough to have a tyrant of a person as a boss, one who is insensitive to individual needs, a terrible taskmaster, unsupportive, and guilty of exploiting his workers? You can take the sufferings in your stride or work at turning a bleak situation to your advantage. In fact, most of the people who complain endlessly about their difficult bosses do not realize that there are actually some benefits to working for someone they do not like or respect. The following paragraphs show a number of things you can do to change the problem of having a difficult boss into a boost for your career. Not only will you end up being able to shape his opinion of you favourably, your good work may even get you promoted into the job now held by your boss!

Firstly keep cool and maintain a calm level-headedness. Your ability to stay cool and perform well, contrasted with your boss’s temper tantrums, should eventually win you praise from colleagues and higher management. Make meticulous notes of what your difficult boss is doing that is wrong, and vow to do just the opposite when you are in a position of authority. Take on a more active role in your company. Remain visible in your organization and in your profession.

Become very good at what you do. Make sure everything is done on time, under little supervision, within the budget and to your boss’s requirements. Learn what is really important to your boss and show by your action that those same things are important to you as well. Do some of your boss’s work by thinking up solutions to problems and new programmes or products. Be careful, however, to share your ideas with your boss first instead of taking them to higher management. He will be grateful to you for that. Volunteer for difficult and unwanted assignments. You will score high on this whenever you step forward to get your boss off the hook. And when you succeed where no one else can, you will become a rising star.

Accept whatever criticism he hurls at you. Do not become defensive. Instead, show a desire to use the feedback to improve your effectiveness. If you react poorly to criticism, it may be withheld until it is too late or until it builds into a hurricane of reaction. On the other hand, accept praise graciously without showing false modesty and thus negating the gift of praise. Just a simple “thank you” will do nicely.

Be direct and concise in your dealings with your boss. Do not play guessing games with him. Use simple language. Do not appear rushed or curt when you speak to your boss. As you have been working with your boss, you should know the direction of his line of questioning. Be prepared with the answers and you will look great. However do not offer any unsolicited promises to gain favour. A promise can turn out to be an invitation to failure. It would be more powerful to deliver a piece of excellent work without having made any promise in advance of a delivery.

How To Find Out The Secrets Of Others

How to get others to tell you their secrets, without letting them know yours

Knowing a secret makes a person feel proud because he feels that he is in a superior position – he knows something that you and others do not. However, a person with a secret is also under a psychological pressure to tell it to somebody. It is not easy to keep a secret, more so if the secret is about something that is very important. This is the reason why state secrets, industrial secrets, company secrets, family secrets etc are often leaked. It is a natural human tendency for one to want to tell another person about something important the moment he learns about it. This knowledge about the pressure of keeping secrets will enable you to find out the secrets of others.

So, to find out something that another person knows about, for example, some future company plans which that person has learnt from the boss, you should firstly let him enjoy his feeling of superiority for a while. Make him feel important and feed his ego by saying that he must be going places since the boss had told him something important. Do it for a while. Then you must drop the subject suddenly and act as if you are no longer interested in it. You will find that very soon, he will want to tell you what it is all about.

Why is that so? Because only by doing so can he demonstrate how important he is. The more hush-hush the secret, the grander he will feel, but only when he is able to tell you. Another human weakness that will act in your favour is that a secret is fun and enjoyable only when it can be shared. But realise that that person will probably want to swear you to secrecy before he is willing to tell you anything. By all means do so and make sure that you do not tell that secret to anyone else. By doing so, you will gain his trust and in future, you will be the first person he confides in whenever he has a secret.

Another way to draw out the secrets of another person is to behave as if the secret is already known to other people, ie it is already common knowledge. All you need to do, when another person comes up to you and say that he knows something important, is to say that it is no big deal and that you already know about it. When he tries to question and test you to find out whether you really know anything, just tell him that it is confidential and that you could not really tell him. The normal human tendency and reaction is for him to tell you what the secret is so that he can PROVE that he also knows the secret. Now, both of you know the secret!

Remember, people will want to tell you their secrets because by doing so, they can show you how important they are. Some people will go to funny extent to enable others to “pry” secrets out of them. If a person really does not want to let anyone knows about a secret, he would not have mentioned it to others in the first place. Any person, by telling others that he knows something secret or important, will eventually let the cat out of the bag. So, you must play along with the person, humour him, and before long, he will tell you everything you want to know. To keep your own secrets to yourself, just remember this simple but effective pointer, “A secret to you alone is a secret. If you tell it to another person, it is no longer a secret. If you tell it to a third person, your secret will be knowledge shouted to the world!”

Be The Life Of The Party And Attract Everyone

7 Be the centre of attraction at any social function

Social functions and parties give people the best opportunity to make important contacts with the right people. They also give you the best chance to impress your bosses as you are able to socialize with them on a one-to-one basis. Most parties are a melange of people and purposes, and the attenders are left to make what they will of them. You will learn in this chapter how to be able to walk into any group at a function and be as much at ease as if you were at home with your own family. You will be completely comfortable in any social environment and at the same time, be the centre of attraction.

To be the centre of attraction at any party, you must dare to be different. If you dress like everyone else, look like everyone else, and act like everyone else, you will never stand out from the crowd. However you should not be so different as to cause the other party-goers to laugh at you. All you need to do is to wear something a little outstanding and you will become the centre of attraction. You can be different without being obnoxious about it. Just be distinctive in some way and you will be noticed and remembered.

Another technique is to arrive after the rest have done so. Make a loud and dramatic entrance. This technique, however, will work only if it is a routine party given just for the sake of socializing, like a New Year party or Christmas party. It will not work if the function is being given for some VIP. In that case, it will be better to arrive slightly earlier and offer your services. This is especially so if the host is your boss or someone important. You should show up earlier and offer to help by meeting people at the door. That will give people the impression that you were the co-host and that you and your boss are close to each other. Your colleagues will view you with more respect subsequently. Your boss will also be grateful for you help and will view you differently from the rest of your colleagues.

One thing you must not do at any party is to sit down comfortably with a particular group of person and chat until the party is over. You must move around the different groups of people and chat with them, often with the excuse of getting another drink, in a fairly consistent pattern of either clockwise or counter-clockwise motion. This will enable more people to notice you.

The worst thing you can do is to sit down and chat with some unimportant people; people who are perceived to be powerless in your organization and be identified by others as one of them. If it is not convenient to move around often, as in the case of a small place, then you should position yourself near the bar where drinks are being served. This position is advantageous for the reason that sooner or later, people at the party will drift there to refill an empty glass. By being there, they cannot help but notice you and pay attention to you.

The bar corner is also advantageous because it allows you to survey the situation thoroughly to determine who is attending the function and decide who to talk to next. Note that when you are at this position, you should stand straight and, sipping your drink, survey the room with a look of alert interest and even slight amusement. By doing so, you will not be left out because you do not act left out. Successful people do not wait for others to come to them. They have an agenda, and they are in command of it. Their plan may be to see a few people, fulfil the obligation of being there and leave as quickly as possible. Or it may be to make points with their clients, get information from a competitor, or keep a spouse happy by just showing up. It is a conscious agenda – you should know why you are there.

One last point to note is that at any social function, try not to drink too much. If you are a non-drinker, so much the better. At such social functions, heavy drinkers who appear unable to handle their liquor will usually end up the losers as most people have the impression that a person who cannot control his intake of alcohol is also one who cannot handle himself or any important business matters as well. Another problem with too much alcohol is that it lowers inhibitions and defense, thus increasing the chances that you become too candid. Do not forget that though parties and functions can offer you a good opportunity to impress the people that matters, they can bring you down if you are not too careful with how you act and behave.

How To Handle Problematic and Difficult People Easily

Handle problematic and difficult people with ease

Wherever we go, we always encounter a certain number of problematic and difficult people; people who go out of their way to create problems and make life difficult for other people. You have to determine first whether that person’s problem is affecting you in any way. If not, you do have not a problem at hand and need not have to do anything. If that person’s problem is causing you harm in some way, then he is a problem to you and you should do something to correct the situation. In dealing with such people, it is imperative that you first find out the reason for his difficulty, ie why is he doing what he is doing or why is he saying what he is saying. Find out what is his problem so that you can help him solve it. When his problem is solved, then you will no longer have a difficult person on your hands.

The best way to do so is to skilfully ask your difficult subject questions in a subtle manner and listen carefully to his answers. You will have to listen between the lines for he would probably not tell you the truth initially. You also may not get the answer at the first round of questioning but would have to ask your questions over a period of time through informal conversations over a drink together. Use the techniques outlined in Chapters 8, 9 and 10. Once you are able to determine what gives rise to his problem, try your best to solve it. If you can do so, you will no longer have a difficult person to deal with. You might even end up having a loyal friend for life.

Master and Control Large Crowds

Master and control large groups of people

There are two important points you must know before you learn how to master and control large groups of people. Firstly, you cannot possibly control and direct the actions of each person in the group individually. Secondly, you will have to obtain help from others to manage and control large groups of people. The secret lies in three basic principles – Organizing, Deputizing and Supervising. Once you learn how to use these basic principles, there is no limit as to how powerful you can become or the number of people you can master and control.

When you become a supervisor, manager or even the CEO of your company, you will have many people working for you. You can no longer do everything yourself. However, there is no need to control everybody to be successful. All you need to do is to control a few key persons. Through them, you would control dozens or even hundreds of people. The secret lies in your ability to organize, deputize, and supervise. Organize your people and your resources to do the task assigned to you. Next, you must delegate authority to your selected and trusted subordinates to do the job. Lastly, you must supervise to ensure that your orders are carried out properly so that work will get done.

To organize, you must know exactly what needs to be done, ie the specific task required of you. Check your resources by determining the manpower, time, money and materials that you will need. Improvise if necessary. Next you deputize by identifying and picking your best personnel to assume responsibility of various aspects and phases of the project. Give them full authority and give them enough time and the information that they would need to do discharge their duties effectively. The people you pick as deputies should be natural leaders and prime movers, not spectators. These people are easy to spot as they will always be in the centre of the action. Through these people, you will be able to control and dominate all your subordinates.

Lastly you will have to supervise properly. Set aside a part of your work day for supervision by reading up the reports and more importantly, physically checking on the work that has been done. Keep your eyes and ears open during such routines. At the same time, ask your supervisors questions to find out if they know what they are doing. Vary your routine by changing the time and places you will inspect. Do surprise checking as well. Such supervisory techniques will give you first hand knowledge of your project, improve your relations with your workers through such enhanced personal contacts and most importantly or all, improve your workers’ performance.

Make Important People Listen To You

Make important people listen to you

Speaking to an important group of persons is just a glorified person-to-person conversation. The difference is that your listeners talk back to you with a nod or a shake of the head, a smile, a scornful look, or by clapping or napping. Many top management people consider good communication skills a foremost quality if you want to move up in business. Fortunately these skills can be learnt. The following paragraphs will show you how.

To be able to make important people listen to you, you must first of all know exactly what kind of a response you want from your listeners. Before you speak, you should visualize what you want your listener to look feel and do as a result of what you say. That is, how are you going to go about changing your listeners? To do that, you must know your listeners well. You must know who they are and what they already knew. What sort of experiences have they had before and whether they care about you and what you have to say.

Your communication style is also important. Every person has a unique way of conveying their messages. You must know what is your own style. Polish up your speaking voice, modulate your tone and make sure that your overall presence affect your listener in a pleasant way. When you talk, you should use vivid languages, simple vocabulary, and paint full pictures that your listeners can “see” with their ears. To do that, make us of metaphors and analogies. Choose words that convey specific and concrete images.

To make people hang on to your every word, you should talk with conviction and enthusiasm. Let your confidence show through your tone of voice and body language. Maintain eye contact with your listeners by looking at them when you speak to them. Refrain from being cocky. Do not apologize for messages as you send them. Try to avoid any form of exaggeration and overstating facts. Appeal to the self-interest of your listeners who would be listening to you with this thought “What is in it for me?”

Stroke your listeners. When you finished talking, you should leave them feeling good about themselves and about you. Be supportive and caring. Be a good listener yourself to your listeners. As far as possible, use their names in your message. Make them happy that they listened to you. Timing is also important. You should only send messages when your listeners are ready for them and not when you want to send them.

The best secret in getting attention and keeping interest has been revealed by a famous professor at the Harvard Business School. Whenever he talked, he would look at every person in turn, multiple times and call them by name. And every person will think “He is talking just to me.” And he is – for those few seconds he was looking at the person.

How To Sell Your Ideas, Yourself and Your Products

Break down resistance and successfully sell your ideas or products to the person who is not interested

We do not always get what we want out of other people as not everybody will immediately do what we want them to do without questioning our methods and motives. It is a frustrating affair and oftentimes, to get things done their way or to win an argument, some people would resort to using force. This is a waste of effort and time as the only way you can ever break down resistance is to get the other person to change his mind. Remember, a person convinced against his will is of the same opinion still. This chapter reveals ways to help you break down another person’s resistance so that you can convert him to your way of thinking.

Whenever a person give you a reason or reasons for his resistance or objection to doing something, you can be sure that the reason is given because it sounds plausible or good to you. The actual objection is hidden and not revealed. To successfully break down the other person’s resistance, you have to uncover the real reason. You can achieve that by simply asking that person either or both of these two questions persistently – (a) Why not or why? (b) And in addition to that, is there any other reason? After some time, the real reason will be revealed, even if indirectly.

Usually, when the person hesitate before saying something, whatever he then says is what you are looking for, ie the real objection. After you learnt that, see if you can overcome the person’s objection by simply turning it into a benefit and appeal to his good judgement. Ask him this, “If I can show you in what ways you can benefit, will you buy my product (or idea, service etc)?” That person now has two choices, to say yes and you would have achieve your goal, or to say no in which case he would have to say why. You can then work on his objection further by turning it into a benefit. This method works most of the time. However if it does not, you can still break his resistance by appealing to his emotions.

We are all ruled by emotions more than by reason or logic. Almost everything we do, like buying a car, marrying someone, changing a job, we do it because of the way we feel about it at a particular moment of time. So, to make a person agree with us, we must work with human nature and not against it. Tell a person that his ideas are stupid and he will defend them all the more. Ridicule his position and he will move mountains to defend it to save face. Never force your ideas on him as he would simply close his mind and your ideas, no matter how good, would meet with a blank wall.

When we try to sell our ideas, products or service to another person, we are actually attempting to reach his subconscious as no idea is accepted and acted upon until it is accepted by the subconscious mind. The only way to get the other person’s subconscious mind to accept your idea is by suggestion. He must accept your ideas from within. Suggest to him, make him feel as if your ideas actually come from him and he will change his mind voluntarily. Otherwise he will merely give lip service and appear to agree with you when he is still unconvinced and will not act on the idea.

The 5 Commandments of Smart Dieting

To really see best results from any diet plan you choose to use, you need to learn a few “diet commandments”. These are guidelines that must be followed if you are going to see superior results that will help propel you forward.

Sadly, many people miss out on one or more of these and it greatly costs them their success.

Want to learn more? Check out the list of five commandments below.

Thou Shall Eat More Protein

Of all the foods that you could eat while on a fat loss diet, protein is perhaps the most important. Protein helps combat hunger, it helps stabilize blood glucose levels, and it helps prevent lean muscle mass loss. This in turn helps speed up your metabolism and accelerates the process of fat loss.

Don’t let your diet intake fall short. Aim to eat some protein in each and every meal and snack that you consume.

Thou Shall Eat Regularly

While the concept that your metabolism will increase the more often you eat isn’t entirely accurate — as the boost you get after a meal is directly related to the size of that meal — eating regularly does help to keep hunger at bay.

By feeding your body frequently throughout the day, you’ll help avoid food cravings, energy lows, and make it that much easier to stick to your diet program.

Thou Shall Prioritize Fresh Foods

When selecting your foods, eating fresh is a must. We live in a world where processed foods are around every corner and just waiting to cause us weight gain.

Eliminate these and you’ll really give your diet a boost. Focus on foods in their natural state — fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains, healthy fats and oils, and lean proteins.

If you only make one change to your diet plan, make it this one.

Thou Shall Set Short Term Goals

One diet rule that you should abide by and follow is to always set short term goals for yourself. Think about what you are doing in the here and now, not months from now. It’s too easy to lose sight of your goals if they are going to take place six months to a year down the road.

Try thinking in two-week segments. Two weeks is about how long it takes for good habits to form, so is the perfect amount of time to you build behaviors that will stand the test of time.

This is precisely why The 2 Week Diet was created. It will help you stay motivated and consistent until you don’t even have to think about making those changes any longer — they’ll just be automatic.

Thou Shall Stop Comparisons

Finally, stop comparing yourself to others. Realize that this is your own journey and your own body. It’s unlike anyone else’s so you simply can’t expect to see the same results as everyone else.

Instead, start comparing yourself today to yourself from yesterday. That will give you all the details you need to know. If each day you are getting better, you are successful in your journey.

So keep these diet commandments in mind. Focus on these and you can feel confident that you are headed in the right direction.

The 3 “Fat Loss Foods” Sabotaging Your Results

Feel like you’re doing everything right on your diet plan but still not seeing the results you desire?

Many people find themselves in this position. They are working hard on their approach and taking care to follow their diet to the letter. But yet, something is amiss. The scale just isn’t going downward and they aren’t getting the results they were hoping for.

What gives?

Often, the big problem is not their effort or motivation. The problem is that they are letting certain foods into their diet plan that are sabotaging their results. Often these foods are designed to be fat loss foods but they really aren’t. Instead, they’re holding you back from success.

What are these foods? Let’s go over three foods that you need to cut out of your diet immediately.

Fruit Flavored Yogurts

Fruit flavored yogurts are a favorite among many dieters but little do they know they’re digging into pint-sized sugar bombs each time they eat a small container.

Next time you’re picking out your favorite yogurt, double check the sugar content. You might just find yourself surprised to know there are 15 or more grams of sugar per serving.

Of course you can purchase the sugar-free varieties, but then you’ll be taking in a number of unwanted artificial sweeteners, which can be just as bad for you.

Instead, opt for plain Greek yogurt. Flavor it yourself by adding a handful of fresh berries.

Fat-Free Products

Next up on the list of foods that you want to get out of your diet plan are any products that are built to be “fat free”. These often state that they are fat free on the label and proud of it.

But ask yourself, if the fat is removed, what is added? Something had to be added otherwise these just wouldn’t taste good.

The answer to that is sugar. Sugar has often been added to these foods and is what is causing them to still taste appealing.

And, if you are trying to lose body fat, sugar is just as bad — if not worse — than fat is.

Protein Bars

Finally, the last of the foods that you need to be careful about including in your diet plan are protein bars. These may seem like a great option since they do contain protein and you’re probably trying to get more protein into your day.

But once again, you need to check that sugar content. Most protein bars are upwards of 15 grams of sugar or more per bar. Some measure in as high as 30 or even 40 grams of sugar depending on the calorie content.

In actuality, these aren’t much more than a glorified chocolate bar. While you can buy a few bars that do keep the sugar content very low (five grams or less per bar), you do need to search for those. Be careful about buying these bars.

So there are three foods that you may be currently eating that could be causing you some issues. Are any of these in your diet?

If you want to learn the two must-eat foods that will help catapult fat loss into high gear, make sure that you check out The 2 Week Diet which goes over the harmful and helpful foods for weight loss.

4 Reasons Why Most Diets Fail

Wondering why you just cannot see success with your diet plan? Do you feel like every diet you go on, you eventually fall off somewhere along the line?

Are you ready to toss in the towel on fat loss for good?

Don’t be. If you stop and take a minute to look at the four reasons why most diets fail, and then find yourself a diet plan that overcomes these reasons, you will soon find yourself on track to optimal success.

Let’s look at the four key factors that you need to know.

Unrealistic Calorie Intakes

The first big reason why most diets fail is because they simply have you striving to take in an unrealistic number of calories each day. In other words, they put you into “starvation mode”. They are causing you to consume so little food that your body literally starts shutting down to conserve fuel.

When it does this, you know that you are on a one-way path to a fat loss plateau. Yes, you do need to lower your calorie intake to see fat loss results, but you need to do so wisely in a way that you can maintain your “metabolic engine”, so to speak.

Lack Of Satiety-Boosting Nutrients

Next, another big issue with most conventional diets is they aren’t providing you enough of the two most satisfying nutrients: protein and fiber. You need protein to function optimally. It’s also the nutrient that’s the slowest to break down and digest in the body, so it will provide immediate satiety.

Couple that with dietary fiber, which is found in fresh fruits and vegetables, and it’ll slow digestion even further.

Many crash diet plans are very low in protein, and while they do have you eating lots of vegetables, many discourage the consumption of fruit.

By making these two nutrients a focus of your plan instead, you can see results that much faster and enjoy being on the diet while you do.

Time Consuming Meal Prep

Who has an hour each and every day to meal prep? Not me — and definitely not you. Yet, many diet plans are so complex that they require this. If that’s the diet you’re on, it’s no wonder you’re failing.

Instead, you want to find an approach that gives you some basic and easy-to-implement guidelines that will help you realize true success with your program.

This plan should not take hours to follow each week, and should work with your lifestyle. When you find such a plan, it’ll be easier than ever to stick with.

Long-Term Approach

Now, chances are you’ve heard that any diet you follow should encourage a long-term approach — and I agree. When you make diet changes, you should be focusing on maintaining healthy eating in the long term.

But, if your diet plan is designed to go on for months, this can kill your motivation in its tracks.

Find a diet with a definite deadline. Two weeks is optimal here as that is the amount of time it takes to build good habits – habits that stick. Also, two weeks is a long enough period of time that you can see good results, but not so long that it’s hard to stay motivated.

Anyone should be able to do two weeks if they put their mind to it. This is precisely what The 2 Week Diet is built upon. By doing this diet, you can see remarkable changes in as little as two short weeks and once you see how easy it is to melt the fat, you’ll want to stick with the plan much longer than that.

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A New You

A New You

You have read and learn a lot from this blog about different types of relationshop and the techniques and skills in handling all kinds of people. Your mind is probably reeling with all the ideas you just learn from this manual. Slow down your mind now. You do not have to absorb the fine points of each chapter before you can begin to make people like you and do what you say. You have, right now, enough knowledge to make wonderful changes and take dramatic strides toward a position of eminence in your job, at home, and in your social life.

The moment you read the final word in this volume, you will be ready to start turning things around in your life. The first person you encounter will offer you an experience such as you have never had before. Why? Because for the first time, you will feel real strength when you meet a new acquaintance or a total stranger. You now have the ability to see into that person. This will make your relationship with the individual far more satisfactory and controllable than people associations have ever been for you in the past. No matter what sort of events occur in that new relationship, you will understand precisely what you have to do to seize the initiative and maintain control. The situation will not get away from you unless you want it to!

Hence, the next week in your life promises to be vastly and astonishingly different. And, as you learn to use the techniques skilfully, you will gain experience in using them and get increasingly more adept and proficient in handling all sorts of people. But remember, whatever you do, remain a student of people. Refer to the lessons in this blog periodically. You will hone your people skills to a degree that will absolutely amaze you.

Good luck!

Win Friends For Life

Keep your friends for life and build upon your friendships

In chemistry, it is a known fact that certain elements have a natural affinity for each other. For example, when two atoms of hydrogen meet one atom of oxygen, they will automatically bond to form one molecule of water. This same kind of attraction can exist between you and your friends as long as you remain alert and spot any misunderstandings or problems before they have a chance to disturb your relationships.

These problems can come up suddenly. For example, in a moment of impatience, a close friend of yours who could be tired or frustrated with his work may snap at you in the midst of a conversation. The natural tendency for a person to react in such a situation is to snap back and you will probably end up arguing or even worse quarrelling with your friend. So to prevent that from occurring, you must be learn to be patient and be alert to the danger signs of temper and lack of concern for your friend. Once you are able to spot these signs, you can quickly correct your attitude and steer the conversation back into a friendly one.

A famous person once said that if he had to choose, in a life or death situation, between saving the life of a close friend first or that of a relative, he would try to save the life of his close friend. The reason he gave for treasuring his friend more than his relative was that he chose who he wanted to be his friends. As for his relatives, he had no choice. He was born into the relationship! So treasure your friendships and learn to keep the bonds strong by using the following techniques:

Go out of your way to develop interests that are similar to those of your friends. Do not act in any way that would clash with their personalities. Create an atmosphere of trust and thereby encourage your friends to drop their masks when they are with you. Show respect for their ideas and sensitivity for their feelings. Make time to listen to their bad luck stories and react with compassion. Congratulate them and rejoice when they have happy news. Lastly do thoughtful things for your friends, such as remembering birthdays with a birthday card, producing a small gift when they least expect it, and writing notes of congratulations for honours and achievements.

Turn Enemies Into Best Friends

Turn hostilities into friendliness

When a person is angry with you, it is usually because of one of several reasons. He could be angry because of something you have said or done, or he could be angry because of something he thinks you have said or done. Sometimes, he may be upset with another person or other matters but vent out his frustrations on you anyway, just because you happen to be the nearest or most convenient target. No matter what, you will need to do something about it, even if you are not to blame. You will need to turn off his anger quickly so that you can restore normal friendly relations with him again.

One effective method to do that is to simply listen to his story from the beginning to end without any interruption at all. After he has completed his scolding or whatever, tell him in a calm manner that you agree with him or that you understand his point of view. Then you ask him what he wants you to do about it. Usually, all he wants is to vent his frustration – get it all off his chest. By providing a sympathetic ear and showing that you are willing to listen, you would have calm him down somewhat. Usually, the person would just say that he only wanted you to know how he feels, or he just wanted an apology from you. If the situation warrants it, by all means apologise to him. You would have turned hostilities into friendliness without much difficulty.

Another effective technique to turn off a person’s anger is to respond in a kind and friendly manner to his outburst. Remain completely calm. Say nothing until he has drained himself emotionally. Then reply in a quiet and soft voice. You must deliberately lower your voice and keep it soft. Doing so will not only calm the angry person down, it will also keep you from getting angry as well. When you refrain from fighting back and hold your temper in check, you would have gained the edge needed to master and control the angry person. He will soon realise that by shouting at you or scolding you, he is the one who is being unreasonable. This embarrasses him and makes him feel bad as a normal person cannot possibly remain angry and high-strung for very long. After a short while, he will regain his composure, become self-conscious and would be anxious to get the situation back to normal as soon as possible.

The last and most effective method in overcoming hostilities, but more often than not the least used, is the ability to say that you are sorry. It is the least used because it is difficult to say for anyone to say that he is sorry. The factors of pride and ego is in play here. However, if you are genuinely in the wrong, you should quickly admit it and say that you are sorry. There is no faster or better way to turn off a person’s anger than to apologize to the person whose feelings you have hurt. However you can go beyond this. To be able to gain a lasting friendship with an angry person, all you need to do is to apologize even when you are not at fault. When you are not in the wrong, you can afford to be big-hearted and magnanimous, and the other person will also admire you for your courage. If just by saying sorry, you can restore peace in the family or workplace, or restore a friendly relationships, then say it. By doing so, you can get on with the more important matters of living and enjoying your life and your precious friendships rather than remaining disturbed and troubled, worrying over who is right or wrong.